“In my biology class, we’d talked about the definition of life: to be classified as a living creature, a thing needs to eat, breathe, reproduce, and grow. Dogs do, rocks don’t, trees do, plastic doesn’t. Fire, by that definition, is vibrantly alive. It eats everything from wood to flesh, excreting the waste as ash, and it breathes air just like a human, taking in oxygen and emitting carbon. Fire grows, and as it spreads, it creates new fires that spread out and make new fires of their own. Fire drinks gasoline and excretes cinders, it fights for territory, it loves and hates. Sometimes when I watch people trudging through their daily routines, I think that fire is more alive than we are–brighter, hotter, more sure of itself and where it wants to go. Fire doesn’t settle; fire doesn’t tolerate; fire doesn’t ‘get by.’
Fire does.
Fire is.”
–Dan Wells, I Am Not A Serial Killer
I was driving home from work today and as I turned into my driveway, I caught a whiff of smoke. Suddenly it was January 2014. The sky was black with night, the moon hidden and my hands were glued in a death grip to my steering wheel as I pulled into the deli market down the street from my apartment. It was one of the coldest nights of the winter, but I didn’t notice the chill biting my skin as I turned toward my road, my sight obstructed by a fog of red flashing lights and smoke.
I think I jogged. I don’t remember getting from my car to the other side of the road. I remember navigating blindly through a crowd of people I didn’t recognize, through a shield of red mist, past people whispering and pointing. I remember hearing a young girl ask her mother “Are the people who live there homeless now? Where will they go?”
I needed to know the answers. I walked toward the building, the white siding stained black with smoke, watching firefighters investigate the charred remains of our downstairs neighbor’s apartment, observing the flashes of headlamps in my own apartment. I could see straight through her apartment to the backyard, it was completely black. They piled her possessions into our driveway. They were unidentifiable.
“There was a grease fire.”
“It spread so fast.”
“We have your cats.”
“Do you have a place to stay tonight? Should we call the Red Cross?”
“I made a mistake and now everything’s just gone.”
When I think back now, I can barely remember what happened, but that scent of smoke as I drove was as effective as a perfectly functioning time machine to transport me back to the moment when I stood outside of my old apartment waiting for the answers to the little girl’s questions, waiting to find my boyfriend among all the people, waiting to know if my cats were alive, waiting to know if I had anything left.
I was suddenly homeless, but my boyfriend and my cats were alive. Later that night we were allowed into the apartment to survey the damage. Most of our stuff survived. Most of our stuff was permanently stained with smoke. We had one week to move it all out.
My neighbor was nowhere near as fortunate. She lost her cat and everything she owned. Even her car was temporarily taken out of use by the fire. It had no mercy at all. Her boyfriend and she quickly abandoned any effort to fight the fire. It was useless, the fire was too powerful, it was wild and free and ready to take whatever it could.
I wasn’t there to see the fire, though someone showed me a video that a firefighter put on Facebook. For the most part, the fire was mostly a mild inconvenience for us: forcing us to move from our first home, an apartment we loved, within a week of the fire in the coldest part of the year. Yet, even over a year and a half later, triggers still bring me back to that day.
My phone vibrates on the counter and suddenly I’m talking to my now-fiancé as he explains “There was a fire, I’m okay and [our neighbor’s] okay. I couldn’t get the cats out, but I tried to keep them in the room farthest away from the fire. But it was bad.”
I see the red flashing lights and I’m wandering down an icy street in January, searching for someone familiar in a sea of spectators. I catch the scent of smoke and I’m standing outside the old apartment building waiting to know if I’m homeless, if my cats are alive, and wondering if I even have a place to go. I’m packing up my things, the windows are open despite the -20˚F chill, gently and pointlessly trying to wipe the brown stains off of photos and papers. I touch the blackened keys of the piano that my fiancé got me for Christmas that year and I’m desperately scrubbing them, while blinking away my tears.
Some people tell me I have symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, but it makes me feel ashamed. I didn’t lose anything. I was the lucky one.
A medical professional who evaluated me suggested the fire may have something to do with my chronic pain. The fire occurred about two months before my pain started, on a week where I said I was ready to move on and leave it all behind. Is the pain a manifestation of the guilt I feel from that night? Maybe, in a way, I’m still standing outside of my old home waiting for answers in the cold, hoping that it never really happened at all. But if I never move from that spot, I will never have any answers at all.
I lost my first home to a fire. Maybe I didn’t lose my cats and I didn’t lose any objects, but I lost my peace of mind and I lost the place where I felt comfortable and safe. I lost a place that I loved. Maybe I don’t have to feel ashamed and guilty that I mourn that loss. Maybe I can’t move on until I do.
Regardless, I am still a better person today than I was yesterday.